When to move on in life (Food for Thought)

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Put a frog into a vessel fill with water and start heating the water.
As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjust its body temperature accordingly.
The frog keeps adjusting its body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point the frog decides to jump out.
The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature.
Very soon the frog dies.
What killed the frog?
Think about it!
I know many of us will say the boiling water. But the truth about what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when to jump out.
We all need to adjust with people & situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust & when we need to move on. There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions.
If we allow people to exploit us
physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so.
Let us decide when to jump!
Let’s jump while we still have the strength.

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NEVER GIVE UP

You are stronger than you think you are. It doesn’t matter what you are facing…a lost relationship, job, bankruptcy, foreclosure, health challenge, or financial situation. You have the power in you to recreate it all over again from scratch. It does not matter how old you are. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s natural to feel sorry for yourself, or feel frightened and want to give up. It doesn’t even matter if the people that you thought would have your back have deserted you. You are still breathing. You’re still here, and you have the power to win.
You are more powerful than you think you are. Remind yourself of this. Stand up within yourself. Gather your mental, emotional, and spiritual strength, and speak from deep within your spirit and your soul. Take back your power Say…”I will survive. I will thrive. I am coming back. Giving up is not who I am. I will stay the course, and persist until I succeed.” You might have to do this while down on your knees, praying, crying, and screaming at the top of your lungs. Resist the feeling of being overwhelmed, powerless, or being a victim. You will survive and thrive again!!! You have something special…you have GREATNESS within you!

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A TRIBUTE TO MOST BEAUTIFUL MOTHER AND MOST GREATEST & LOVING HUMAN BEING

I never found myself alone, because of my Mother. -Shahid Muneer Anjum
I remember thinking a long time ago that it was impossible to have an agape sort of love — a love that is absolute and all encompassing — an unconditional love — a love that transcends all else. I have found it with my Mother. I am at a loss of words to describe my Mother. My mother was everything to me…..my teacher, my counselor my cheerleader, my caretaker; but most of all, my best friend. On 16th of July 2015, Mom made her transition into spirit. I cannot even explain my feelings of loss….never has anything hurt this bad. Not a moment goes by that she is not in my thoughts, and I just wish I could’ve held her one more time and told her how much she meant to me, how much I love her. I know this love as beautiful, as powerful, and as strong. It is a love that is all accepting, without conditions or limitations or prejudices.

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It’s an unknown turning point There’s fear everywhere Everything appears foggy In a moment something is lost The sky is pale Breath is frigid Shadows had separated from body In a moment something is lost Breath flows haltingly Body feels like it’s been peeled On broken dreams, Your world survives O! light of the God Tell me where are You hidden O! light of the God Don’t take Your gaze away from us. (source:unknown, translated by me )
“ Losing someone when you’re young is the greatest pain anyone can face. — Amory Blaine
“Sometimes, when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated.” — Lamartine
I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. If you were once connected with someone, does it make sense that the connection is broken just because of a physical death? No, the connection stays. You may just have to listen differently. You may just have to talk differently. The truth is that the connection is never broken. It’s quite impossible to break the most powerful connection in the universe. As long as you exist, the connection stays. Those we love don’t go away; they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near; still loved, still missed and very dear. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love. My mother is always in mind; forever in my heart. “The life of the dead is placed in the heart of the living.” (Cicero). Forever in this heart of mine, an everlasting bond, you’ll stay, until we meet again someday.
They say memories are golden Well maybe that’s true But I never wanted memories I only wanted you.
In life I loved you dearly In death I love you still In my heart you hold a special place No one could ever fill.
If tears could build a staircase And heartache build a lane I’d walk the path to heaven And bring you back again.
Mom when the doctor said that she is no more, I refused to believe it could be true. How could I allow myself to even Imagine saying goodbye to you.
Mom you were an Angel here on earth I learned so very much from you. You were so gentle and so kind your Smile would always see me through.
You taught me how to love unconditionally And how to be my very best in all I do. You gave your all to God and your family Never once stopping to think about you.
You were more than a mother you were my Best friend and a great listener too. Oh how I miss our special talks, and All the fun things we used to do.
Mom I can never say goodbye to you, Because I could never bear the pain. Instead I say I love you Mom Until we meet again. (anonymous)
All of us miss her terribly, but I know she’s in a better place where she won’t feel any more pain and where she’ll stay forever young. Its my humble request to all of you who are reading this to offer fatiha for my Mom and pray for her maghfirat. May Allah in his mercy grant her rest, May Almighty Allah dwell her in Jannatul Firdaus (the most beautiful paradise). May Allah make her pass successfully in all the stages of the life after death. May God give her eternal rest and may her soul rest in peace! Ameen.

Ignoring Your Inner Voice

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In traffic, we come across signs every single day. Sometimes we pay attention and sometimes we don’t. To some of us, the big red sign with the letters, S T O P is a stop sign. For others, it is a “slow down” sign. “No U turn” can be interpreted as “No U turn when you see the cops.” And 60 miles an hour can mean anything from 65 -90, depending on who you talk to.

Every single morning, the right side of my car almost gets taken off by drivers who interpret the sign telling them to “yield” as a green light. It’s huge, it’s red, and it even accompanies another small yellow sign next to it that says, “No merge area.” Still, most drivers pay absolutely no attention to the sign. And every other week, I drive past an accident.

Traffic signs are no different from the signs we see in relationships. We choose to see them or not see them. And they are all open to interpretation. Some signs are subtle and can be explained away. They show up like a sun shower in July and then disappear. Others are not so subtle. They resemble wrinkles on our finger tips from staying in a relationship too long. They can be loud and glaring and yet we can still tell ourselves to ignore them or make them into something they are not.

Our conscience is our brain’s way of trying to lead us in the right direction. Sinking feelings, nerves, anxiety… those are all a way for your sixth sense to quietly tap you on the shoulder and whisper in your ear, “Something doesn’t feel right.”

Unfortunately, most of us try our best to ignore our inner voice in relationships. There are hundreds of ways that we do that; Keeping ourselves busy with work, pouring ourselves into our children, straying away or cutting off friends and family, going out, substance abuse, taking up hobbies…anything and everything to prevent our brains from having a quiet moment to breathe and consider possibilities. As long as we can cloud our inner voice or keep it busy, then we won’t have to listen to it….or so we think.

Listening to your inner voice is the key to finding happiness. When you ignore it, you suppress not only your “Something doesn’t feel right” voice, but you also suppress inner peace, happiness, and comfort. You exchange all of that for temporary peace and temporary happiness that comes to you in small doses. What ‘doesn’t feel right’ still catches up to you, whether it is in your dreams, through the voices of your children, friends, or family, or in the moments when you are sitting in the same room as your significant other and still feel lonely.

Take a moment, breathe, and listen to your voice. You can’t ever outrun her/him. You can only try.

 

Have you ever ignored your inner voice? Tell me about it.

How To Be Good At Life

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The definitive collection

Being good at life is simple. Follow these tips and you too can enjoy a happier more fulfilled life.

  1. Stand up for something.
  2. Remember family comes first.
  3. Know that you are not your job.
  4. Find a mentor.
  5. Mentor someone.
  6. Slow down and take it all in.
  7. Don’t be afraid to let loose.
  8. Let people know you (and if they don’t like you — it’s their loss.)
  9. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
  10. Make mistakes. Learn from them and do things better.
  11. Realize that you do not have all the answers.
  12. Treat people with respect.
  13. Say Thank You along the way.
  14. Have some fun.
  15. Keep breathing.

The Value of Beauty

Beauty is the most important thing to strive for in all that you create.

Beauty is not just about how something looks from the outside. It’s not just a mask around the functional parts of what you build. Beauty exists at every level and in every capacity. A creation is only a collection of its parts, and if enough of those parts are inferior, the whole thing can never truly be beautiful.

Beauty is consistently formatted code. Debating the name of an internal tool. Drawing wireframes people can make sense of. Organizing your layers in Photoshop. Laboring over the wording of a blog post. Aligning all the screws on the back of a fence. Carefully painting a wall to avoid marring the brick next to it.

Nothing is too small or too insignificant to be made beautiful.

When you’re a carpenter making a beautiful chest of drawers, you’re not going to use a piece of plywood on the back, even though it faces the wall and nobody will ever see it. You’ll know it’s there, so you’re going to use a beautiful piece of wood on the back. For you to sleep well at night, the aesthetic, the quality, has to be carried all the way through.

— Steve Jobs

Beauty begets quality and should be considered every step of the way. It enables quick iteration and collaboration, and defines the quality of work surrounding it. By investing time in getting things right from the start, you make it easier for yourself and others to improve upon and interact with your work. Properly formatted code will still make sense years later. Organized Photoshop layers help others understand your designs.

A line of code here. A pixel or two there. It might feel like sweating all these small details will slow you down, but with practice it will become habitual. Invariably you’ll hit a tight deadline and may have to skip some things. The goal is to stop seeing these details as trivial and instead as a natural part of the process.

Avoid making small details into bigger problems later; the granular stuff will be hard to justify fixing once you’ve moved on to other things. Instead, strive for beauty from the very beginning.

7 Ways You Can Be A Better Partner

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If you have found the man or woman of your dreams, then it is perfectly normal for you to want to become a better partner – in the end, the most difficult thing isn’t to find somebody you are compatible with, but to keep the “passion flame” burning over the years. Unfortunately, many couples fail to do that, and this happens mainly due to the lack of communication. If you want to become a better partner, this means you appreciate the presence of your significant other and you do not want to lose him or her. Having said that, here are 7 ways you can be a better partner:

1. Never Rush Things

This is a common issue that can make a relationship fail even before it starts. While it is true that you must show your significant other love and compassion, you must also make sure to give him enough space and to avoid choking him with love. Remember, when you make yourself too available, the other one may simply lose interest.

It is important to let things flow – do not force things, to not be pushy and do not stress him or her with your constant wish of having somebody to keep you warm at night. If it is meant to happen, it certainly will. Be natural, be yourself and go with the flow!

2. Be An Optimist – People Love Positive Mindsets!

Nobody likes a pessimist or somebody with a dark, negative mind. If this is your case as well, then try to change your attitude – everything starts from your mindset. If you are a negative person you are prone to criticism and constant attack, and your boyfriend/girlfriend will eventually get tired of that.

On the other hand, if you are mature, positive and optimist and you make jokes and laugh a lot, the other one will certainly not get bored of you in the near future. The secret is to make your significant other want to spend more time around you. This is what lies at the foundation of a solid, love-filled and durable relationship or marriage. Also, don’t forget about the inside jokes that are the salt and pepper of every successful relationship!

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3. Stay On The Honest Side

Lack of honesty is undoubtedly one of the most common causes of divorces and break ups nowadays, this is why you must stay honest no matter what. There’s an old saying that goes like this “If you admit your mistake, it is half forgiven already”. In the end, keep in mind that it is a lot better if your better half finds out something directly from you, than from a “third party”. Stay true to who you are, and never forget that it is not shameful to apologize when you do something wrong! Stay honest, because regaining one’s trust once you lost it is one of the most difficult things in life.

4. Stay Attractive

Another common mistake many people tend to do when they enter a relationship or get married is that they simply stop paying attention to themselves: men stop going to the gym to look good, while women stop going to the salon because their significant other loves them just the way they are.

This is perfectly true, but at the same time it is essential to stay attractive to the other one. There is nothing wrong with being seductive every once in a while, and this applies both to men and to women – besides, you will be amazed to see how good this can make you feel and how much it will help your self-esteem!

5. Understand Each Other’s Need For Space

Last, but not least, it is important to understand that even if you two live under the same roof, every human being feels the need to be autonomous. This need does not refer only to spending some time alone, but also to the freedom of choice every individual needs when it comes to making personal decisions.

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6. Share Common Interests

Common interests are the “glue” of your relationship, they keep you together – the more interests you share, the better. However, if you have only a few things in common, you do not need to struggle to like your loved one’s passions or hobbies – all you need to do is to show some respect and understanding.

Does he love computer games? That is perfect, as long as he does not spend hours in front of the computer. Does she love shopping? That’s perfect as well, as long as she is a loving, caring girlfriend who understands your passions. Relationships are all about compromise, never forget that!

7. Communication Is The Key!

Communication is absolutely vital for the success of every relationship or marriage – after all, if you are unable to discuss with the one you share your bed with, with whom are you supposed to talk then? Keep an open mind and show availability when it comes to approaching a variety of topics – don’t be afraid to talk about intimate things as well.