Put a frog into a vessel fill with water and start heating the water.
As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjust its body temperature accordingly.
The frog keeps adjusting its body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point the frog decides to jump out.
The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature.
Very soon the frog dies.
What killed the frog?
Think about it!
I know many of us will say the boiling water. But the truth about what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when to jump out.
We all need to adjust with people & situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust & when we need to move on. There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions.
If we allow people to exploit us
physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so.
Let us decide when to jump!
Let’s jump while we still have the strength.
You are stronger than you think you are. It doesn’t matter what you are facing…a lost relationship, job, bankruptcy, foreclosure, health challenge, or financial situation. You have the power in you to recreate it all over again from scratch. It does not matter how old you are. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s natural to feel sorry for yourself, or feel frightened and want to give up. It doesn’t even matter if the people that you thought would have your back have deserted you. You are still breathing. You’re still here, and you have the power to win.
You are more powerful than you think you are. Remind yourself of this. Stand up within yourself. Gather your mental, emotional, and spiritual strength, and speak from deep within your spirit and your soul. Take back your power Say…”I will survive. I will thrive. I am coming back. Giving up is not who I am. I will stay the course, and persist until I succeed.” You might have to do this while down on your knees, praying, crying, and screaming at the top of your lungs. Resist the feeling of being overwhelmed, powerless, or being a victim. You will survive and thrive again!!! You have something special…you have GREATNESS within you!
I never found myself alone, because of my Mother. -Shahid Muneer Anjum
I remember thinking a long time ago that it was impossible to have an agape sort of love — a love that is absolute and all encompassing — an unconditional love — a love that transcends all else. I have found it with my Mother. I am at a loss of words to describe my Mother. My mother was everything to me…..my teacher, my counselor my cheerleader, my caretaker; but most of all, my best friend. On 16th of July 2015, Mom made her transition into spirit. I cannot even explain my feelings of loss….never has anything hurt this bad. Not a moment goes by that she is not in my thoughts, and I just wish I could’ve held her one more time and told her how much she meant to me, how much I love her. I know this love as beautiful, as powerful, and as strong. It is a love that is all accepting, without conditions or limitations or prejudices.
It’s an unknown turning point There’s fear everywhere Everything appears foggy In a moment something is lost The sky is pale Breath is frigid Shadows had separated from body In a moment something is lost Breath flows haltingly Body feels like it’s been peeled On broken dreams, Your world survives O! light of the God Tell me where are You hidden O! light of the God Don’t take Your gaze away from us. (source:unknown, translated by me )
“ Losing someone when you’re young is the greatest pain anyone can face. — Amory Blaine
“Sometimes, when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated.” — Lamartine
I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. If you were once connected with someone, does it make sense that the connection is broken just because of a physical death? No, the connection stays. You may just have to listen differently. You may just have to talk differently. The truth is that the connection is never broken. It’s quite impossible to break the most powerful connection in the universe. As long as you exist, the connection stays. Those we love don’t go away; they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near; still loved, still missed and very dear. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love. My mother is always in mind; forever in my heart. “The life of the dead is placed in the heart of the living.” (Cicero). Forever in this heart of mine, an everlasting bond, you’ll stay, until we meet again someday.
They say memories are golden Well maybe that’s true But I never wanted memories I only wanted you.
In life I loved you dearly In death I love you still In my heart you hold a special place No one could ever fill.
If tears could build a staircase And heartache build a lane I’d walk the path to heaven And bring you back again.
Mom when the doctor said that she is no more, I refused to believe it could be true. How could I allow myself to even Imagine saying goodbye to you.
Mom you were an Angel here on earth I learned so very much from you. You were so gentle and so kind your Smile would always see me through.
You taught me how to love unconditionally And how to be my very best in all I do. You gave your all to God and your family Never once stopping to think about you.
You were more than a mother you were my Best friend and a great listener too. Oh how I miss our special talks, and All the fun things we used to do.
Mom I can never say goodbye to you, Because I could never bear the pain. Instead I say I love you Mom Until we meet again. (anonymous)
All of us miss her terribly, but I know she’s in a better place where she won’t feel any more pain and where she’ll stay forever young. Its my humble request to all of you who are reading this to offer fatiha for my Mom and pray for her maghfirat. May Allah in his mercy grant her rest, May Almighty Allah dwell her in Jannatul Firdaus (the most beautiful paradise). May Allah make her pass successfully in all the stages of the life after death. May God give her eternal rest and may her soul rest in peace! Ameen.
Beauty is the most important thing to strive for in all that you create.
Beauty is not just about how something looks from the outside. It’s not just a mask around the functional parts of what you build. Beauty exists at every level and in every capacity. A creation is only a collection of its parts, and if enough of those parts are inferior, the whole thing can never truly be beautiful.
Beauty is consistently formatted code. Debating the name of an internal tool. Drawing wireframes people can make sense of. Organizing your layers in Photoshop. Laboring over the wording of a blog post. Aligning all the screws on the back of a fence. Carefully painting a wall to avoid marring the brick next to it.
Nothing is too small or too insignificant to be made beautiful.
When you’re a carpenter making a beautiful chest of drawers, you’re not going to use a piece of plywood on the back, even though it faces the wall and nobody will ever see it. You’ll know it’s there, so you’re going to use a beautiful piece of wood on the back. For you to sleep well at night, the aesthetic, the quality, has to be carried all the way through.
— Steve Jobs
Beauty begets quality and should be considered every step of the way. It enables quick iteration and collaboration, and defines the quality of work surrounding it. By investing time in getting things right from the start, you make it easier for yourself and others to improve upon and interact with your work. Properly formatted code will still make sense years later. Organized Photoshop layers help others understand your designs.
A line of code here. A pixel or two there. It might feel like sweating all these small details will slow you down, but with practice it will become habitual. Invariably you’ll hit a tight deadline and may have to skip some things. The goal is to stop seeing these details as trivial and instead as a natural part of the process.
Avoid making small details into bigger problems later; the granular stuff will be hard to justify fixing once you’ve moved on to other things. Instead, strive for beauty from the very beginning.