Put a frog into a vessel fill with water and start heating the water.
As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjust its body temperature accordingly.
The frog keeps adjusting its body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point the frog decides to jump out.
The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature.
Very soon the frog dies.
What killed the frog?
Think about it!
I know many of us will say the boiling water. But the truth about what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when to jump out.
We all need to adjust with people & situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust & when we need to move on. There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions.
If we allow people to exploit us
physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so.
Let us decide when to jump!
Let’s jump while we still have the strength.
You are stronger than you think you are. It doesn’t matter what you are facing…a lost relationship, job, bankruptcy, foreclosure, health challenge, or financial situation. You have the power in you to recreate it all over again from scratch. It does not matter how old you are. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s natural to feel sorry for yourself, or feel frightened and want to give up. It doesn’t even matter if the people that you thought would have your back have deserted you. You are still breathing. You’re still here, and you have the power to win.
You are more powerful than you think you are. Remind yourself of this. Stand up within yourself. Gather your mental, emotional, and spiritual strength, and speak from deep within your spirit and your soul. Take back your power Say…”I will survive. I will thrive. I am coming back. Giving up is not who I am. I will stay the course, and persist until I succeed.” You might have to do this while down on your knees, praying, crying, and screaming at the top of your lungs. Resist the feeling of being overwhelmed, powerless, or being a victim. You will survive and thrive again!!! You have something special…you have GREATNESS within you!
Beauty is the most important thing to strive for in all that you create.
Beauty is not just about how something looks from the outside. It’s not just a mask around the functional parts of what you build. Beauty exists at every level and in every capacity. A creation is only a collection of its parts, and if enough of those parts are inferior, the whole thing can never truly be beautiful.
Beauty is consistently formatted code. Debating the name of an internal tool. Drawing wireframes people can make sense of. Organizing your layers in Photoshop. Laboring over the wording of a blog post. Aligning all the screws on the back of a fence. Carefully painting a wall to avoid marring the brick next to it.
Nothing is too small or too insignificant to be made beautiful.
When you’re a carpenter making a beautiful chest of drawers, you’re not going to use a piece of plywood on the back, even though it faces the wall and nobody will ever see it. You’ll know it’s there, so you’re going to use a beautiful piece of wood on the back. For you to sleep well at night, the aesthetic, the quality, has to be carried all the way through.
— Steve Jobs
Beauty begets quality and should be considered every step of the way. It enables quick iteration and collaboration, and defines the quality of work surrounding it. By investing time in getting things right from the start, you make it easier for yourself and others to improve upon and interact with your work. Properly formatted code will still make sense years later. Organized Photoshop layers help others understand your designs.
A line of code here. A pixel or two there. It might feel like sweating all these small details will slow you down, but with practice it will become habitual. Invariably you’ll hit a tight deadline and may have to skip some things. The goal is to stop seeing these details as trivial and instead as a natural part of the process.
Avoid making small details into bigger problems later; the granular stuff will be hard to justify fixing once you’ve moved on to other things. Instead, strive for beauty from the very beginning.
What is love? Are there different types of love? Love impacts different depths of our hearts. Love for certain foods or deserts. Can this be love? Love can be feelings of companionship and intimacy. There are many depths of love we experience. Simple joyful love of certain foods, music, nature, etc. The most desired heart feelings are love and intimacy. Many of you are now questioning why can’t I have these desired heart-felt feelings.Perhaps you are questioning if someone closest to you really loves or loved you. Passions in life derive from desires of love. How can feelings so deep-rooted in our hearts be described literally? Well let’s attempt to touch the surface and get the thought process going……………….
Ages 1-5 We are able to feel/experience emotions but lack reasoning ability to analyze emotions or consequences of our emotions
Ages 6-12 These years pass with a blink of our eyes. These are the ages we tend to idolize our parents or idolize friends parents or relationships. We seek acceptance from our immediate family. We seek honor, love, compassion and worthiness. Yes we seek these all our lives but our most vulnerable years are during this time and it can define our values later in life or hinder the values we so desperately seek. Puberty, hormonal changes and self-image come into play as we try to find ourselves through these changes. Imagine if we don’t feel accepted by our family or have endured pain or abuse from our family how devastated we can become at this age!
Ages 13-16 During these years we are very analytical and over rationalize and analyze events that have taken place or current events. We may idolize “John” or “Sue” and want to “fit in” with peers and be accepted. Social pressures in school, peer pressure, sexual experimentation, alcohol, recreational drugs and all other social pressures become prevalent. We are trying to find our own identities and peer pressures and social pressures are overwhelming. Should any major life issues, abuse or challenges occur we tend to turn to the social acceptances even easier. These social pressures such as drugs, alcohol and sex mask our problems and tend to create more problems.
Ages 17-18 We tend to think we know everything. We question those with authority. We think we are adults or become rebellious.
Not every child will fall into these exact examples but you may understand how impressionable we are during different age brackets and how willing we are towards expanding our thought processes. Now imagine if you came from a single parent environment, abusive home, bullied in school or your first sexual experience left emotional scares and wounds. How does your age affect and influence your passions and desires from the heart and what love means to you. As we grow our values, thoughts and desires change so does our meaning and desires for love. Perhaps this is why when we become victims during these ages we build walls around our hearts to protect these painful and hurt feelings. When we build these walls at such a young age when our minds and hearts are most receptive we become all the more victims of ourselves as we harbor and manifest these painful feelings over many years. Some people still harbor these pains, perhaps out of shame, guilt or feelings of being inadequate. What have we really done by performing emotional feelings? We have takenownership and become consumed by these feelings. How can you truthfully take ownership for pain someone has inflicted upon you, you didn’t do the actions or events nor were you deserving of these events. I am not saying it is wrong to have feelings but our ability to analyze and process these feelings and abusive events is severely jeopardized by our emotions and thought processes during different age brackets. Stay tuned…..